Couples Coaching and Counseling
You remember when things were better. You used to enjoy each other. Laugh, have fun, talk about anything. You were attracted to each other. However, over time, things changed. Whether it was one big incident or just a gradual decline in the relationship, you somehow don’t recognize the relationship you are in now.
You love your partner and yet you know this is not how it is meant to be. You are feeling like nothing more than roomates. And sometimes you may even feel like enemies. Your arguments may get out of control and you both end up saying or doing things you never thought you’d do. You feel more alone than ever, and sometimes you wonder if you should even be together.
Your communication is either non-existent or hostile. You find it harder and harder to talk about important issues and things get swept under the rug. Sometimes you even wonder if you should be together.
We can help.
Couples counseling and coaching can help you get back on the right track. We can help you:
- Help you communicate better
- Defuse anger and hostile arguments
- Build trust again
- Help you problem solve sticky situations
- Restore a sense of fun and laughter again
- Bring emotional closeness back to your relationship
- Restore physical intimacy again.
Here are some of the services we offer:
Marriage Counseling and Coaching:
Let’s face it, marriage takes work. Maybe you’ve been trying to solve problems in your relationship but it hasn’t been working. Sometimes it makes it worse! A marriage counselor or coach can help you figure out where the disconnect is and redirect you. So you can save time and heartache and get on with living your life.
Mariage counseling and coaching can help you:
- Get your marriage to a healthy place again.
- Quit being stuck and feeling alone.
- Bring peace back into your marriage
- Get on the same page so you feel like you have a true partner.
Set a good example for your children and stop arguing in front of them.
Pre-Marital Counseling and Coaching:
Many people spend so much money and time planning a wedding but don’t think about planning for the marriage. Invest in something that will last you a lifetime. Many people come to us after the marriage and say “I wish I talked about this with my spouse before.” In premarital counseling and coaching, we will look at the important aspects of marriage and discuss the good, the bad and ugly. This way, you can smooth out the rocky areas and be ready to start your lifetime together.
Counseling and Coaching for Dating Couples
You have found someone you really love but somewhere along the line, you both got stuck in a rut. Maybe something happened that broke the trust between you two. Or maybe there’s been a gradual distance growing. Or an event that has affected your connection. Either way, it’s worth saving, it’s worth working on. In our counseling and coaching sessions, we will figure out what went wrong and how to get back to where you want to be.
Dating Counseling and Coaching for Singles
We see clients who just went through a breakup and need help processing, grieving and building a new normal. We see clients who are great people with wonderful character but end up dating people who aren’t the best. We can help you figure out why these patterns keep arising and how to change it. We have clients who for some reason just can’t find the right person. They are attractive, successful people who just need a place to process why this is happening and how to get to a place where they can position themselves to find and be a great partner.
Not sure? Here are some FAQ’s
Do I need a coach or do I need a therapist?
If you have a diagnosis or you think you have clicnical symptoms of mental illness, then a therapist is what you would need. If you have relationship issues, or confidence issues, basically “life” issues, then a coach or a therapist would be sufficient. A coach tends to have a more present and future focus. If you want someone who is going to do a lot of problem solving and giving you tools, then I would recommend a coach. If you want to delve into your past and work through trauma or other clinical diagnoses, then a therapist would be better for you.
What makes you qualified to help me?
David is a relationship life coach with Gottman Relationship Levels 1 and 2 Training. He comes with over 20 years of experience helping couples find healing and connection. His experience has been in pastoral counseling, with real people with real problems here in the Silicon Valley. Tech people, lawyers, teachers, moms, coming to him with issues like infidelity, parenting conflicts, communication issues, to name a few. People say he has the ability to make coaching sessions relaxed, he has a good sense of humor, and is very friendly, non-judgemental and insightful. Read more about what people have to say in his yelp reviews here.
How long does it take to see results?
The first session or two is usually spent collecting data. However, we always try to give you something to take home during the first session. Maybe an insight or a piece of advice to try. After a few sessions, as we get to know you more, we will be able to do more interventions and do more guidance to get the momentum moving.
I don’t feel like counseling works.
You are right. Counseling and coaching does not work for all people. And some counselors and coaches are better at some things than others. In fact, some coaches and counselors unfortunately take on a wide variety of issues and end up knowing just a little about everything. Here at Resonance Counseling and Coaching, we focus on one thing: relationships. And we are darn good at it. We are not allowed to say that you will definitely be helped, but we can say that we have done this enough times to know what we are doing. So you’ve got a good chance!
We have a history of helping hundreds of couples get back on track and rebuild their relationships. See some of our success stories here.
I don’t like sharing my problems with outsiders.
We totally understand. It is very scary to open up to someone you have never met, about the things that are closest to your heart and the most painful to you. We understand this, so we try to make it as friendly and non-judgmental as possible. We understand people. And one thing we know is that judgement does no good for our clients, or anyone in general. We work as a strengths based practice, where we work to motivate, encourage and inspire people to change. We work with their gifts, and affirm what is right in people’s lives. We also understand that we are all human and we all fail, and we all need someone that is going to help us get up and do the things we need to do so we can have the things we truly want and need.